About Me

Since my inbox has been absolutely inundated with requests to learn more about me, here are the answers to your burning questions.

The Basics

As you know, I’m a parent of 2 fabulous girls. My eldest, S—who prefers to go by Sister Mommy—was 3 ½ when I started this, born in August of ’07, so you do the math. Baby N, aka The Gnome, graced us with her adorable presence in February ’11. Some pics: 

Look Ma, no hands!

Our Toddlers in Tiaras entry. Denied.

She wants to wear the ears, Mommy, really!

My wonderful hubby is a high school teacher. We make our (very messy) home in Albuquerque, New Mexico.

If you’re curious about who Carlos is, check out the blog Introduction.

Other Stuff

My favorite color is green.

I like sunsets and long walks on the beach. (No, really, I do. Take me to the Caribbean and I’ll prove it).

I drink tea, not coffee. Green, white, Earl Grey, ginger peach. I love me the teas.

Q: What do you want to be when you grow up?

Oh, so many things. Too bad none are related to my formal education. (*Kicks self in butt for that last student loan*). So in order of importance, I want to be:

1.    An amazing mother. I start every day with this high aspiration, and 
       it’s usually crushed at getting-out-the-door time in the AM, lack-of-
       afternoon-nap time in the PM, or holy-smokes-when-is-Papi- 
       coming-home time at the dinner hour. Once all children are sleeping 
       sweetly, the dream rises again.

2.    A published writer of YA or women’s fiction. Currently working on

3.    A doula and/or lactation consultant. I am fascinated by all things 
       pregnancy/childbirth/baby related. Plan to pursue this when kiddos
       are a little older.

4.    An ESL (English as a Second Language) teacher at the elementary
       school level. At some point I will go for Master’s degree #3 and 
       become a teacher. Maybe in my 40s. This is the retirement plan.

5.    Something that allows me to hang out on a tropical beach somewhere
       in Central America. Haven’t figured this one out yet. If you have an
       idea that doesn’t involve drug running or infringing on local people’s 
       autonomy and culture, let me know.

Q: So, do you make a lot of money off of this blog?

Ackhhh klchckhh! That was the sound of me choking on my Cheerios with laughter. In theory I could monetize the blog and earn .00013 cents every few months, but that would be silly. I do freelance writing to make ends meet and, as mentioned, my hubby is a public school teacher. We are rollin’ in it.

Q: Based on your blog, you seem a little, shall we say, unbalanced. How did they ever let you out of the hospital in possession of a baby?

Excellent question, and one that I thought of beforehand. To get around this, I had both of my children at home.

Yes, on purpose. Yes, it hurt like a mofo. Yes, it was totally worth it and I would do it again.

If you are interested in homebirth and want to hear my birth stories, please email me—I’m glad to share, and I’m a huge homebirth advocate.

Q: In a similar vein re: your craziness, why does your husband put up with you?

I’ve asked myself this, too. It boils down to: I’m a pretty good cook; he’s a sucker for my killer Wiggles dance moves; and most importantly, he’s a Mexican national, so there’s the whole green card deal.

On a related note, we are a bilingual family, so he goes by Papi (pronounced Poppy), not Daddy.

Q: Do you feel oppressed being a housewife and stay-at-home-mom?

Awesome question, 15-year-old me. I was as surprised as anyone to learn that staying home to raise your children is a huge privilege (assuming one makes this choice voluntarily). I feel so grateful to have the opportunity to be home with my girlies. Do they drive me utterly insane at times? Yes indeedy. Do I feel I am sacrificing my career for them? Not for a second. This is where I want to be. Maybe my novel(s) would be a lot further along without kids, but then again maybe they wouldn’t be. Being a mother has opened up creative channels I didn’t know existed.

Q: Do you want to be Saved?

Um…sure, yeah, I guess. As long as you don’t have to ring my doorbell, call me, or have any other contact with me, then go for it. Save away!

Q: How can I get a hold of you in case I want to stalk you and your family?

I don’t really dig on the stalkers, but I would love to hear from you. Please leave comments on your favorite posts, and if you’re so inclined, share them with your friends. You can also reach me at

 abqbabylove [at] gmail [dot] com

or follow me on Twitter at


Just no spam. Or creepiness. Thanks!

Have more questions? Just ask!


  1. The teenage me would have never envisioned being a SAHM. Funny how we change. Definitely a privilege. :)

  2. I loved you before and love you all over again now. I never pictured myself staying home with my baby, but I also had no idea how much I'd love him or how blessed I'd feel to spend every min I can with him *ear to ear mommy love smile*

  3. I love your blog S! And I love your answer to the question from 15-year old you! If only she were the only person who asks that pesky question... its amazing to me how critical people can be of mothers who decide to stay home, or mothers who decide to work, or just mothers period I guess. Will society ever understand that mothering is not only work, but HARD WORK, and not only hard work, but IMPORTANT,FULFILLING WORK? Best to you and keep on writing!